Saturday, December 15, 2012

Meeting Our Son

It was just as I expected, neither Danelle nor I slept at all the night before we left for the orphanage.  Since neither of us could sleep, we talked and prayed over what was to come.  Both of us were both wanting 4:45 to arrive so we could leave for one of the biggest parts of our adoption journey. 

The drive from Kiev to the village we went to usually takes around 4 hours, but due to the weather, it was more like 5.  During much of the trip, the landscape was great expanses of snow.  Is it any wonder then that I heard "Laura's Theme" from Doctor Zhivago?

Before we went to the orphanage or "boarding school" as it's called, we stopped in the village to meet with the local SDA office. 

Like the SDA office in Kiev, this one's walls were painted in mint green.  We sat on a bench in the hallway, which wasn't heated and had no lights on, while Luda went in to meet with her.  After 30 minutes they came out and were told she was going with us to the boarding school to see how we interacted with the child (Gee, no pressure there, right?).

The boarding school was 40 mintues from the SDA Office. 

There were very few cars and most people walked or rode a bicycle or horse-drawn cart.

Once we were at the boarding school, we were taken inside to meet with the lawyer.  She fixed us green tea and she went to retrieve the file. 

We were glad to hear that he had tested negative for Hepatitis, HIV, and Syphillis.  We also found out that the reason he had spent his whole life in an orphanage.  As we were being told about the boy, I noticed tears in Danelle's eyes. 

Finally, they brought Cava in.  He was very small (he's 8 but looked 6), shy, and spoke in a quiet voice.  Benjamin gave him the presents we got for him (Legos and a motorized truck).  He and Benjamin played together on the floor while we asked the lawyer questions.  Then Luda would translate questions we had for Cava.  Some of what we found out:
- His favorite show is"Spongebob Squarepants"
- His favorite movie is "Masha and the Bear"
- He loves to read (Hooray!)
- His favorite color is green
- He loves sweets
- His favorite subject in school is math (He is at the top of his second grade class)

After we played with him for around 30 mintues to an hour, we were asked if we wanted to adopt him.  Wow!  That question came quicker than I expected.  So Danelle, Benjamin and I went into the hall to discuss it.  The first thing Danelle said was, "I can't leave him behind," and Benjamin, who had been even more fervent than me about getting a sister for him, said, "We have to adopt Cava!  I want him as my brother."

When Luda came out to ask us, we told her we were. 

They then asked Cava if he wanted to be adopted?  He nodded.  "Would you like to have them as your family?"  A smile and a nod.  We would find out later that he had gone back to the lawyer to ask her, "They do still want me?  They haven't changed their mind?"  She calmed him down and said, "No Cava, they haven't changed their mind.  They want you to be part of their family."  She told Luda that Cava left there very happy.

On another day after our initial meeting, Luda told us a boy ran up to Cava and asked, "Cava, are you being adopted?"

Cava replied, "Yes.  They are my family," and a big grin came over his face.

Already Brothers


  1. What a neat experience for you guys. Just reading it made my eyes swell up and seeing the photos of the boys looks like a good match. Looks like he will fit right into your family. So excited for you guys. The best Christmas gift you could ask for. Looks like all is working out for everyone. Love the photos.

  2. Adoption is so beautiful! God is good!

  3. I came across your blog totally at random (was doing general research on Kiev), but I kept reading, and was very moved by your entry today (12/15). Hope you all and Cava are very happy.

  4. Yeahhh!!!!!!!! Awesome news. I hear so many stories about how God knew what families did not and lead them to their perfect children. So glad your story is unfolding that way too.