Wednesday, September 18, 2013
For one of his homework assignments for school, Cava was asked to brainstorm and list ways he was special. Then he was to take that list and write a paragraph. So I sat down at the kitchen table with him and asked, "Okay, Cava what makes you special?"
He thought for a moment before replying, "Nothing."
My heart sank because I really do think that he sees himself as not being special. Since I wanted to lift him up, I overly exaggerated my response of, "WHAT??? ARE YOU KIDDING ME? YOU, NOT SPECIAL? Cava, are you tricking me?"
"You must be tricking me because you are one super, duper extremely special kid. I think the hardest part of this assignment is narrowing it down to just a few ways that you are special since there are sooooooo many ways that you are. The teacher didn't even give us enough sheets of paper to write all the ways you're special."
Now, when I asked him what made him special, Cava answered, "I'm happy."
"In what way?"
"Before, when I had no family, I was sad, but now I'm here and I'm happy."
"That's an awesome one."
He then began to come up with other ways he was special:
- Being from Ukraine.
- Flying in a plane over the ocean.
- Learning to speak English.
- That he can do puzzles.
- His ability to do flips.
- He has a fish named Marlin and a dog named Chloe.
As he began compiling his list, I encouraged him and kept saying, "And what else?"
Each time, he would give me that Cava smile that I love so much and he would come up with more ways he was special.
After he'd compiled his list, I said, "See, look at all those ways you're special - and that's only just a few of them. We'd never get this homework assignment done if we listed all the ways you're special. But the one thing I want you to always remember is that God made you special and unique and that there is no one else in the world just like my Cava. And I love you very much just the way you are."
This was definitely a homework assignment that Cava needed and continues to need to learn.